Salute to Senior Service – Nominate An Outstanding Volunteer as Oregon’s “Senior Hero”

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Video Overview of Senior Volunteerism

The Home Instead Senior Care® locations serving seniors in Washington County have announced the Salute to Senior ServiceSM program to honor senior volunteers for the tireless contributions they make to their local communities.

The program includes a search for the most outstanding senior volunteer in each state and culminates with the selection of a national Salute to Senior Service winner during Older Americans Month in May.

 

State Senior HeroSM winners will receive plaques, and their stories will be posted on the SalutetoSeniorService.com website. In addition, $5,000 will be donated to the national winner’s nonprofit charity of choice.

 

According to research conducted by the Home Instead Senior Care® network, 52 percent of seniors volunteer their time through unpaid community service. Nearly 20 percent (one in five) of seniors surveyed started volunteering when they reached the traditional age of retirement – 65 or older. Furthermore, 20 percent of seniors who volunteer say that their community service is the most important thing they do.

“Helping others defines life for many local retired seniors,” said Mike Brunt owner of the Home Instead Senior Care office in Washington County. “And what a difference we have observed in seniors’ health, attitude and outlook among those who choose to stay active as they age.”

Dr. Erwin Tan, director of the Senior Corps, a national organization that links more than 400,000 Americans 55 and older to service opportunities, agrees. “The one thing that I hear constantly from the seniors in our programs is that volunteering gives them a purpose in life – they say that it’s the reason they get up in the morning.

“In addition, it’s a great way for them to learn new things – whether a skill or just something about an issue in which they have an interest,” Tan said. “Volunteering is just a great way to expand their horizons and feel like they’re still a valuable part of their community.”

For more information about the Salute to Senior Service program or Home Instead Senior Care, please go to www.salutetoseniorservice.com or call 503-530-1527.

The Home Instead Senior Care network completed 600 telephone interviews with seniors age 65 and older in the U.S. who currently volunteer their time through unpaid community service. The sampling error is +/-4.0% at a 95% confidence level.

 

“I Will Remember For You” Alzheimer’s Music Video

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Oh the places you used to go,
All the people you used to know,
The stories that you loved to tell
About a life that you lived so well.
It’s fine, you can rest if you want to.
I will remember for you,
I will remember too.

Music is just a story with a melody. The song “I Will Remember for You” played in the video above tells the story of a couple touched by Alzheimer’s disease. It was written and performed by Home Instead Senior Care staff member Dave Mainelli, and is inspired by all the families who are keeping the memories alive for loved ones experiencing memory loss. Music powerfully communicates emotion and narrative, making it an excellent tool to evoke memories for those living with Alzheimer’s or other dementias.

More about the benefits of music for people with Alzheimer’s disease or other dementias

 

Website Offers Help for Alzheimer’s Families

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

In my six and a half years of providing caregiving services to seniors at home, I have supported many families affected by Alzheimer’s disease as they struggle to understand and cope with the changes the disease brings to their senior loved ones. My desire is always to help the families know that while their journey will test their emotional and physical stamina, they are not alone and that help is available.

The families I have observed who were most centered in facing Alzheimer’s disease were the ones who had an understanding of the nature of the disease and who sought for and found emotional support through peer groups or professionals.

Because knowledge and understanding are so imperative for families coping with Alzheimer’s, I am pleased to refer you to an excellent online resource: http://www.helpforalzheimersfamilies.com.

The site answers questions such as -

  • What is the difference between Alzheimer’s disease & dementia?
  • What are the stages of Alzheimer’s and dementia?
  • Is Alzheimer’s inherited?

 

But it also goes beyond the basics to provide practical advice on topics such as  -

  • Capturing Memories for Someone with Alzheimer’s or Dementia
  • Alzheimer’s Conversation Tips
  • Creating a Memory Box

 

If you are a member of a family affected by Alzheimer’s disease, this site is for you. If you know a member of such a family, please do them a favor and point them to this thoughtful resource.

http://www.helpforalzheimersfamilies.com

 

 

 

Elderly “Experts” Share Life Advice in Cornell Project

Article by by Jane E. Brody of the New York Times - January 9, 2012
Link to Full Article

Eventually, most of us learn valuable lessons about how to conduct a successful and satisfying life. But for far too many people, the learning comes too late to help them avoid painful mistakes and decades of wasted time and effort.

Enter an invaluable source of help, if anyone is willing to listen while there is still time to take corrective action. It is a new book called “30 Lessons for Living” (Hudson Street Press) that offers practical advice from more than 1,000 older Americans from different economic, educational and occupational strata who were interviewed as part of the ongoing Cornell Legacy Project.

Its author, Karl Pillemer, a professor of human development at the College of Human Ecology at Cornell and a gerontologist at the Weill Cornell Medical College, calls his subjects “the experts,” and their advice is based on what they did right and wrong in their long lives. Many of the interviews can be viewed at legacyproject.human.cornell.edu.

Here is a summary of their most salient thoughts…

On Marriage

On Careers

On Parenting

On Aging

On Regrets

On Happiness

Link to Full Article

 

 

Hearthstone at Murrayhill Free Seminar Series: “Making Life Choices”

Blog Post by Penny Holcomb, Community Relations Director, Hearthstone at Murrayhill

Printable Flyer

Free Seminar Series for Seniors and Families

A free seminar series is being offered by Hearthstone at Murrayhill, a retirement community located at 10880 SW Davies Road in Beaverton.  The four-week series, titled “Making Life Choices,” is geared toward seniors and their families. Seminars will be held on four consecutive Saturdays, beginning January 14, from 10 a.m. to noon.

The January 14 session, titled “What You Don’t Know…CAN Hurt You,” will feature two local professionals: Lake Oswego Attorney Christopher Young from the Pixton Law Group and Diane Childs from the State of Oregon’s Department of Consumer & Business Services. Mr. Young will focus on common legal issues faced by seniors and their families. Ms. Childs will provide tips on how to protect your money from fraud and identify theft.

Subsequent Saturday sessions (January 21 and 28, and February 4) will feature other local professionals who are familiar with the needs of seniors and their families. They will address such topics as “Creating Family Peace in Times of Turmoil,” “Selling Your Home in a Down Economy,” and “Getting Organized.”

 

 

Reinventing After a Family Crisis – from More Magazine

Blog Post by Mike Brunt
Article from More Magazine written by Michelle Stacy

When her grandmother could no longer manage by herself, former marketing executive Denise Thomas found her passion: helping the elderly live at home for as long as possible.

On a sultry day in April 2011, Denise Thomas, the owner of Home Instead, a franchise business in Austin, Texas, drives to the home of an elderly client. Ninety-one-year-old Emily Lake moved into her comfortable single-story house five years ago and plans to stay there, thanks to Home Instead’s caregivers, who help her bathe, pay bills, shop, track medications and generally maintain her independence. For Thomas, visits to satisfied clients are the best part of her job.

Link to full article at More.com

 

Success to Significance – Finding Purpose Serving Seniors

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Earlier this year, I was in Omaha, Nebraska for Home Instead’s annual worldwide convention for franchise owners. It is always inspiring to meet and associate with fellow Home Insteaders from across North America and around the world.

This year, the keynote speaker was Dr. Ken Dychtwald, a renowned thought leader on the “Age Wave” and the societal implications of an aging population. I enjoyed his material so much, I came home and bought 5 of his books.

In his book called “With Purpose: Going from Success to Significance in Work and Life,” Dr. Dychtwald talks about the aging population’s need to leave a legacy and to define what life is about. Because we are typically living 20 years longer than people even 80 years ago, these extra years can be seen as a “longevity bonus.” The question becomes, what will tomorrow’s seniors do with this extra time? Just be old longer? No, they will re-invent themselves, pursue their passions, and make a meaningful contribution to society.

I loved these concepts so much, I created a presentation based on them. I am presenting this in the community, anywhere I can, to show baby boomers how they can use their longevity bonus to serve the elderly. For boomers who are shifting their focus from financial success to social significance, being a CAREGiver with Home Instead Senior Care would be a great way to serve humanity.

In 2012 I’m hoping to present this material to many churches, service organizations, and other places where baby boomers may congregate or search for meaningful, part-time employment. If you have ideas on where I may present this material, please email me at mike.brunt@homeinstead.com.

Preview Presentation: Finding Purpose Serving Seniors

 

Community Energy Project

Blog posted by: Sherrie Smith

 

 

The poor economy has been difficult for many people, but low-income seniors and people with disabilities have been hit especially hard. Many struggle with rising energy costs and homes falling into disrepair, and the impacts on physical and emotional health have been evident to those of us who work with the elderly. Fortunately, in Portland, there are some great programs that have survived budget cuts and are still providing necessary services for these vulnerable populations.

Community Energy Project (CEP) provides free small-scale weatherization and safety repairs for low-income seniors and people with disabilities. They provide and install vinyl storm window kits, door weatherstripping, pipe foam, furnace filters, and more. They can also make small safety-related repairs to railing, stairs, wheelchair ramps, and install grab bars, hand-held shower heads, elevated toilet seats, and more. These simple measures are available to renters as well as homeowners, and those living in nearly every kind of home from trailers and mobile homes to houses and apartments at no cost.

At this time, CEP can serve people in the Lents Urban Renewal Area and the Interstate Corridor Urban Renewal Area only. To determine if you are in the service area, visit www.portlandmaps.com,enter your address, and then once it loads click on the “development” tab. Call CEP at 503.284.6827 for questions, or to sign up for services.

Web: Community Energy Project

 

Be a Santa to a Senior

Touching the Lives of Seniors

Blog Posted by: Preston & Aimee Roth

A Home Instead Senior Care Santa with a senior gift recipient

 

In 2006, Be a Santa to a Senior volunteers visited a local nursing facility and distributed gifts to a number of residents, including one 87-year-old woman whom we’ll call Mary. She was pleased to receive her gift and thanked us profusely, but it wasn’t until we returned to give Mary another gift in 2007 that we recognized the true value of Be a Santa to a Senior.

When we entered Mary’s room for our second visit, we noticed that the only card on her bulletin board was the Be a Santa to a Senior card from the previous year. As we spoke with her caregivers we found out that our Christmas card and gift were the only items she had received throughout the year. Mary re-read the card regularly to help keep that memory alive.

This years Be a Santa to a Senior program will be our 2nd annual for our Multnomah and Clackamas Oregon Home Instead Senior Care office’s. Last year we supplied 60 gifts for financially challenged or lonely seniors and our goal for 2011 is 150 gifts! We are committed to increasing the amount of seniors we can help and touch each year! Our seniors are our nations greatest resource and in fact John A Kitzhaber, Governor of the State of Oregon has Proclaimed December 2011 to be “BE A SANTA TO A SENIOR MONTH”

Each year the Home Instead Senior Care network  throughout North America spread holiday cheer through the Be a Santa to a Senior program. The program has attracted upwards of 60,000 volunteers over the past six years distributing gifts to deserving seniors.  Since introducing the Be a Santa to a Senior program, Home Instead Senior Care has helped provide 1.2 million gifts to more than 700,000 seniors.

Click this link to see a touching video about the Be a Santa to a Senior Program

How Be a Santa to a Senior Works

Our Home Instead Senior Care office has partnered with local non-profit and community organizations to identify seniors who might not otherwise receive gifts this holiday season. We then work with local businesses and retail stores to help facilitate the purchase and distribution of gifts by placing trees and ornaments within their various locations. Each senior’s gift requests are written on a Be a Santa to a Senior tree ornament.

Sample Be a Santa to a Senior ornament/gift idea

Here’s how to help an under served senior:

  1. Find the nearest Be a Santa to a Senior tree location. Our current locations in Multnomah County Are:
  • Home Instead Senior Care – 4538 NE Sandy Blvd, Portland OR 97213
  • Hollywood Senior Center – 1820 NE 40th Ave, Portland OR 97213
  • Lloyd Athletic Club – 815 NE Halsey St, Portland OR 97232
  • Sterling Savings Bank – 4728 NE Sandy Blvd, Portland Oregon 97213
  • Wholesome Blends Coffee – 4615 NE Sandy Blvd, Portland OR 97213

Our current locations in Clackamas County Are:

  • Bullseye Coffee – 1980 Willamette Falls Dr, West Linn OR 97086
  • Sterling Savings Bank – 25529 SW Gwen Drive, Wilsonville, OR 97070
  • The Art Spot – 510 1st Street, Lake Oswego, OR 97034

2. Remove an ornament

3. Purchase the gift

4. Bring ornament and gift back to participating store and give to
store employee.

It’s that easy.

Local volunteers collect, wrap, and deliver the gifts to the seniors.

We will be collecting all gifts at the tree sites by Dec 16th with all gifts delivered by Loaves and Fishes before Christmas.

Gift Wrapping Party

We will be wrapping and packing all gifts at the Hollywood Senior Center - 1820 NE 40th Ave Portland OR 97213 on December 17th from 2-4pm. We will have hot cocoa, Christmas cookies and Christmas music to get us all in the mood. We would love for anyone who is interested to come and help. Its an amazing, and touching event to say the very least.

Find a Tree today and brighten the life of a senior.

If there is not a Be a Santa to a Senior tree in your community, we encourage you to contact an organization in your community dedicated to helping seniors during the holidays.

Family Caregiver Vignette: “At Least One Prayer Was Answered”

Blog Post by Mike Brunt
Story by Linda, one of my wonderful Home Instead CAREGivers – (Become a CAREGiver)

Last week at the Washington County Family Caregiver Conference, I had the pleasure of sitting next to one of my wonderful CAREGivers, Linda. Over lunch, she told me the tragic story below. I asked her to write it down, so I could share it here.

This story simply and openly sheds light on a grim chapter of Linda’s life. But, I hope that through its sharing, other family caregivers will gain perspective and courage to do what is being required of them (specifically as it relates to getting enough support when dealing with angry care recipients who should not be driving).

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by Linda – “At Least One Prayer Was Answered”

In September 1996 my husband was informed on a Monday that his last day of work would be Friday because he would begin kidney dialysis.  So, for the next 7 years, I was his caregiver and took care of everything.  I had a full time job with a lot of pressure and responsibility.  I had to continue my job so we could have health insurance.  Just the medical bills for my husband were over ten thousand dollars a month.

Things were going along okay. Then, in January 2004, we had an ice storm and I asked my husband to either call and postpone his session at the dialysis clinic or let me drive him there.  But no, he insisted that he could drive there himself.  So, he took off for the clinic.  He pulled into the clinic’s ice-covered parking lot and attempted to get out of the car and go in.  He fell to the ground and couldn’t get up. He had broken his leg and didn’t know it.  He crawled from the parking lot to the front door and got the staff’s attention, and then they helped him in with a wheelchair.

He insisted he’d be fine and, “let’s just do the dialysis.”  So that’s what they did. After the session he was helped back to his car and drove home.  I had shoveled out our drive way while he was gone, so he could get out of his car and into the house without any trouble.  After he got into the driveway, he called me from his cell phone to say he’d fallen, and could I come out and help him in. As I was looking at his leg I told him we needed to go to the hospital.

At the hospital, the doctor explained that because of his medical conditions, they could set his leg and put him in a cast, but the chances of it healing were very slim. He insisted they cast him and that’s what they did.  He was prescribed some very strong pain pills, and before we left, the doctor told him he would not be able to drive until he was finished with his pain medications.

So, for the next 6 months, that’s when the really tough times happened.  Because he could no longer drive, I arranged my schedule to take him to his doctor appointments. I scheduled with mass transit to take him to and from his dialysis sessions 3 times a week.  The doctors didn’t tell me that this already angry, angry man was going to get angrier on this pain medicine.  He turned into the devil, and was always yelling, calling me names, trying to hit me, etc.

When I came home from the grocery store one day in June, he and his car were both gone.  I had hidden his keys to keep him from driving, and he must have found them.  I said my prayers, “please Lord, don’t let anyone else get hurt.”  The police called me at about noon.  He was heading out Highway 26 and crossed three lanes of traffic heading the opposite direction.  He crashed into a traffic pole and died.  I asked if anyone else was hurt and was told, “no.”  So, at least one prayer was answered.

 

Summerfield Festival of Trees – Dec. 10, 6-9 p.m.

Blog Post by Shellee Baidenmann,
Activity Director, Summerfield Retirement Estates in Tigard

Come join in on the holiday fun with Summerfield Retirement Estates’ “Winter Wonderland Festival of Trees” open house on Saturday, December 10th from 6-9 p.m. As an entry “fee” we are asking for a donation of a non-perishable food item for St. Anthony’s Food Pantry in Tigard.

 

Local businesses who would like to be a part of the event may bring and decorate a tree (artificial only please). Tree sponsors may include signage and information related to their businesses to make a great impression with all the event’s attendees on December 10th. Tree setups will begin on Monday, November 28th. For more information about becoming a tree sponsor, please call me, Shellee Baidenmann, at 503-620-8162.

 

Age in Place with Home Instead Senior Care – Beaverton Valley Times

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Many of us are remodeling to age in place

Start with a safety assessment by a Home Instead caregiver

BY BY POLINA OLSEN

The Times, Nov 10, 2011

(news photo)

Nancy Watts and her dog Cruiser show off a set of wheelchair-friendly French doors that replaced single doors in her Beaverton home.

 

Nancy and Ivan Watts always said there’s no place like home.

That’s why moving to their one-level Beaverton house and remodeling for aging-in-place made sense. Experience with Ivan Watt’s elderly parents gave them insight. They started long before necessity dictated. Now both partially disabled, they find their comfortable home ready for them.

According to daughter Lynnae Rhoades, manager of Washington County Home Instead Senior Care, more than 90 percent of seniors want to remain at home. She helps people like her parents every day.

“If you let it go, you’ll get into an emergency situation and a fire drill,” she warned. “But, if you think ahead, you’ll have perspective and control.”

Control starts with a safety assessment by a Home Instead caregiver, Rhoades said. They look for trip hazards, like throw rugs and places where grab bars can help.

“We make it clear that grab bars should be installed by a professional. They need to be in the wall with studs. Seniors can rent or build a wheelchair ramp.

Rhoades believes falls are the greatest hazard. Often the elderly misjudge small things, like picking up their dog. Surprisingly, she finds they seldom fall down stairs.

“You’re taught since you were little that stairs are dangerous, and banisters are professionally installed,” she said. “But people don’t want to rearrange furniture, don’t want to use walkers, or don’t want to give up those throw rugs, and they end up falling. Bathtubs are the biggest problem. It gets unstable to stand on one foot to lift the other. Sometimes people get in the bathtub and can’t get out. They pull the towel rack off the wall because that’s how they usually support themselves. If they don’t have a medical alert or cell phone, they’re stuck until someone finds them.”

Rhoades’ advice is simple: “Don’t skimp on safety measures. Some people have the urge to do things partially. If you want to stay at home, plan and budget for each project, and have it completed well. Make sure grab bars are secure and doors are wide enough. There’s lift chairs, several kinds of walkers, you can look at putting railings on your bed. Both from studying research and knowing seniors, I can say they thrive and are much happier in their homes.”

Her mother, Nancy Watts, agrees. “Most things were not expensive,” she said. With Rhoades’ help, she and husband Ivan doubled door width by replacing single doors with attractive French doors. They removed the kitchen island so a wheelchair can pass and converted a little-used breakfast nook into a pantry complete with pullout shelves.

“Fortunately, the hall already was wide enough,” Watts said. They replaced the tub with a walk-in shower complete with a bench. A low toilet makes transfer easy.

The bedroom was also setup for the family. Sliding glass doors open to a hot tub complete with grab bars and lifts. The king-size hospital bed features separate controls on each side so one person can sit while the other lies flat. Even miniature pinchers Penny and Cruiser are set to age in place. A doggy staircase from the pet store makes it easy for them to climb up and cuddle on the bed.

 
TIPS FOR AN AGING-IN-PLACE REMODEL

1. Have grab bars professionally installed.

2. Remove throw rugs or choose models with non-slip backs.

3. Watch out for floor surfaces. Make sure carpet is low pile and tiles are non-slip.

4. Cover stairs with rough material. A light strip along each edge helps you see where each stair ends.

5. Replace the bathtub with a walk-in shower with a bench inside. Or install a bathtub slide board.

6. Don’t use ladders or stepstools.

7. Do use a grabber to reach lightweight objects on high shelves.

8. Keep it light: Think about installing motion sensor lights, and make sure the path from your garage to the house is well illuminated.

9. Pullout storage means no more crawling into cabinets.

10. Lever style handles on your doors and faucets may be easier to manage than knobs.

11. Have someone regularly check on you.

12. Use a medical alert service or carry a cell phone at all times. Remember, you designate whom the service calls first. The service will try a family member or neighbor before calling an ambulance, if you prefer.

13. Make sure your contractor is a certified aging-in-place specialist.

 

(For more information, or to find a certified aging in place specialist, visit portlandonline.com, type aging-in-place in the upper right corner search box, click the right arrow and then select Aging-In-Place Tools. Contact Washington County Home Instead Senior Care at 503-530-1527 or www.homeinstead.com/606.)

 

Do Stop In To See The Orchids In Their Full Glory

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Anyone who has worked with seniors, in any way, will be able to relate with me on this. It seems that the most special, and heart-touching moments are born out of common daily experiences.

This is a note I received last week from a new client, Dorothy. It made me feel so happy and so glad I do what I do. It’s amazing how small acts of kindness and gratitude can spark such strong feelings of joy and bonds of fellowship. I’m keeping this note in my back pocket for those who can’t understand why I get so excited about serving seniors.

 

“Thank you Mr. Brunt for the gorgeous plant of phalaenopsis orchids. Their beautiful shades are just breathtaking. I am so sorry that it took me so long to acknowledge your thoughtfulness. Do stop in to see the orchids in their full glory. Thanks again. You must see the flowers. Your graciousness extended to me was a treasure to behold and receive. Sincerely, Dorothy.”

 

 

 

Rosewood Park Veteran’s Day Celebration

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Veteran’s Day is coming up on Friday, November 11. If you are looking for a way to commemorate the day and honor those who have served our country, please come to the Veteran’s Day Celebration at Rosewood Park Retirement and Assisted Living in Hillsboro.

 

Senior Service Opportunity Fair – Volunteer and Paid Positions Available

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

I’m in my 7th year of providing employment opportunities to good people in Washington County, Oregon. Something I have learned over that time is that caregiving is more than a job. Good caregivers treat their work more like a higher calling. . . something they are passionate about, because they know serving seniors is what they are “supposed” to be doing at this time in their lives.

Good caregivers come from all walks of life, but what they often have in common is they have shifted their focus from success to significance. This is a concept described by Dr. Ken Dychtwald in his book, “With Purpose: Going from Success to Significance in Work and Life.” I will be presenting on this topic at a wonderful upcoming event you are invited to attend.

Please RSVP to Claire Tronvig at 503-956-8734 or ctronvig@impactnw.org

Senior Service Opportunity Fair – Volunteer and Paid Positions Available

When: Tuesday, November 15, 4-7 p.m.

Where: Home Instead offices in Tigard (12194 SW Scholls Ferry Rd., Tigard, 97223)

For Whom: People who love seniors and who are looking for fulfilling volunteer work and part-time paid positions

What:

  • Learn about opportunities Home Instead, Senior GAP Impact NW, and Hospice of Washington County
  • Hear a motivational presentation about staying active, sustaining meaning, and fulfilling life through serving the elderly
  • Enjoy quality refreshments and have a chance to win gifts from New Seasons, Olive Garden, and Amazon.com
  • Mingle with like-minded people who are seeking significance in work and life.

 

Click Here to Enlarge Flyer – PDF

Holiday Gatherings: Awareness of Your Senior’s Needs – Video

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Mary Alexander from Home Instead Senior Care, discusses helpful tips for enjoying holiday gatherings with our senior loved ones. During these busy family gatherings, it’s important for everyone to be aware and considerate of elderly family members’ needs. Talk to family and friends before they arrive.

 

Caregiving’s Hidden Benefits

By Paula Span of the New York Times
New Old Age Blog, October 12, 2011 – Link to NYT Article

Could there be measurable benefits to your health, and to your brain in particular, from being a caregiver?

It’s practically become an article of faith that the reverse is true, that caring for an elderly relative is so stressful, relentless and draining that it takes a toll on your well-being. Some studies have shown that it can increase your risk of depression and heart disease, impair your immune system, even contribute to death.

That caregiving could actually provide some health advantage is so counterintuitive that when Lisa Fredman, a Boston University epidemiologist, first saw such results emerging from her study of elderly women, “I thought, what on earth is going on here?” she recalled. “I blamed myself. I thought something was wrong with my data.”

But over several years of studying the differences between caregivers and non-caregivers in four locations (Baltimore, Pittsburgh, Minneapolis and Portland, Ore.), Dr. Fredman and her colleagues found that while caregivers were indeed more stressed, they still had lower mortality rates than non-caregivers over eight years of follow-up.

In another study of about 900 women drawn from the same four-site sample, even those classified as high-intensity caregivers — because they performed more functions for their dependent relatives — maintained stronger physical performance than non-caregivers. On tests like walking pace, grip strength and the speed with which they could rise from a chair, the high-intensity group declined less than lower-intensity caregivers or non-caregivers over two years.

“That was a shocker,” Dr. Fredman said.

 

Now Dr. Fredman and her co-author Rosanna Bertrand, a health policy associate at Abt Associates in Cambridge, Mass., have gone back to this pool of women to look at their cognitive functioning. Here, again, caregivers did significantly better on memory tests than did non-caregivers followed over two years. Though the groups were about the same average age, in their early to mid-80s, caregivers scored at the level of people who were 10 years younger.

Along with what’s called “caregiver burden,” gerontologists and psychologists use the phrase “caregiver gain” to reflect the fact that this role, which often exacts such high costs, can bring rewards. But they’ve typically described those rewards in psychological, emotional and even spiritual terms: growing confidence in one’s abilities, feelings of personal satisfaction, increased family closeness. That caregivers can walk faster or recall more words on a memory test — that’s news.

Dr. Fredman has begun referring to this notion that caregivers are not invariably beaten down by their responsibilities as the “healthy caregiver hypothesis.” Taken together, her studies provide some evidence that caregivers, however stressed, may be stronger and stay stronger than women of the same ages who don’t undertake those tasks. The interesting question is why.

You can’t randomize studies like this, assigning some old women to serve as caregivers but not others. So it’s likely that a big part of the differences, Dr. Fredman said, stemmed from self-selection: Women become caregivers because they are healthy enough to shoulder that responsibility. “If you’re not healthy,” she said, “it goes to your daughter or daughter-in-law.” It’s not surprising, therefore, that even high-intensity caregivers have and maintain more physical strength.

It’s also true that Dr. Fredman’s definition of a caregiver sets a fairly low bar, including anyone who performs even one “instrumental activity of daily living,” such as helping someone with bill-paying or phone use. Hands-on help with bathing or toilet use is clearly more stressful, physically and emotionally; caring for someone with dementia can be particularly arduous.

But caregiving itself may provide real benefits. “Most caregiving activities require you to move around a lot,” Dr. Fredman pointed out. “It keeps people on their feet, up and going.” And exercise is known to improve physical health and cognition.

Moreover, Dr. Bertrand added: “Caregiving often requires complex thought. Caregivers monitor medications, they juggle schedules, they may take over financial responsibilities.” That, too, can ward off cognitive decline.

Plus there’s the whole matter of people benefiting from having a purpose. It’s hard to quantify, but it’s real.

So it’s fair to say that the question of how caregiving impacts the caregiver is more complicated and individual than we think. Both could be true, the burdens and the benefits, depending on how demanding the job is and a host of other factors.

That caregiving is a very tough job is beyond debate. “We don’t want to overstate this and say it’s good for caregivers and have governors across the country rush to cut support programs that help families,” said Steven Zarit, a Penn State gerontologist who has studied caregiving. (Of course, governors seem all too eager to do that anyway.)

Still, “it may not be as predictive of their demise as previously thought,” Dr. Bertrand said of elder care and caregivers. “There are potentially some positive aspects.”

 

Seminar Educates On “Aid and Attendance” Benefit for Veterans

Post by Mark Read, Jennings McCall Center

THE IMPORTANCE OF VETERAN AID AND ATTENDANCE: Get all of your questions answered

 

Forest Grove – The community is invited to attend a free informational seminar for veterans and their families on Saturday, November 12, from 2:30 – 4:00 pm at the Jennings McCall Center.  Patty Servaes, founder and CEO of Elder Resource Benefits Consulting and a nationally recognized expert on Veteran Benefits, will present at this seminar.

Veterans are faced with many questions when applying for Veteran Aid and Attendance…Do you qualify?  How does the application process work?  When are you or your spouse eligible for benefits?  Will this help in funding an assisted living or retirement home?  This seminar will answer these questions and provide a step-by-step approach for applying for Veteran Aid and Attendance.

Jennings McCall Center is a community resource to families exploring the ‘best fit’ as they consider moving into a retirement or assisted living community.  The seminar will educate retirees and their families on issues they are confronting and to provide advice from our expert. The seminar is free and open to the public.  Refreshments will be served.

For more information, contact Mark Read at 503-359-8559.  Jennings McCall Center is located at 2300 Masonic Way in Forest Grove.  Visit our website at www.jenningsmccall.com for details.

 

 

Table Talk: Tips for Mealtime Conversations with Seniors

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

Companionship through Meaningful Conversation

The shopping is done, and the meal is ready and on the table. Your work is complete, right? And now comes the fun part. You sit down to dine with an older loved one. But what is there to talk about? A senior’s world may have shrunk to the size of their four walls. Even so, mealtime conversations are an important part of the dining experience. Without that, elderly depression could be a problem.

Sharing memories is one way to get the conversation going, according to Dr. Amy D’Aprix, a life transition consultant, author, corporate speaker, facilitator, coach, and an expert in aging, retirement and caregiving. “Sharing memories is a great way to deepen your relationship with an aging relative,” D’Aprix said. “But sometimes we all need help thinking of new and meaningful things to talk about.”

That’s why D’Aprix created Caring CardsTM. This packet of playing card look-alikes features more than 50 questions on a wide range of topics that can help you engage a senior loved one in meaningful conversation and provide companionship. Featured below are two Caring Card questions and D’Aprix’s comments about ways that you can use them to start up table talk with older adults.

(For a free set of “Caring Cards” call me at 503-530-1527. I’ll send the cards to the first five callers.)

What are some of the most valuable things you learned from your parents?

Many of us enjoy remembering our parents and the impact they had on our lives. Whether our relationship with our parents was easy or difficult, or more likely a combination of both, most of us recognize that who we are as adults was at least partially formed by what we learned from our parents. This question gives seniors the opportunity to talk about some of the most impactful things they learned from their parents. Follow-up questions could include:

  • How did your parents teach you about “X”?
  • Why do you think it was important to your parents that you learned “X”?
  • Do you think they learned “X” from their parents?

For example, if the senior mentions the “importance of hard work” as something valuable they learned from their parents, you could ask whether their parents worked hard and in what ways. You could ask if their parents required them to work hard as a child. You could also ask if their parents had to work hard as kids and if their grandparents taught them it was important to work hard. This question could lead to many questions about how much time was spent working versus leisure time, and whether the parents thought people who didn’t work hard were lazy.

What was a major turning point in your life and how did it affect you?

As Kierkegaard said, “Life can only be understood backward, but must be lived forward.” By the time they have reached their senior years, many older adults have had numerous turning points. Reminiscing about these turning points allows seniors to make sense of their lives and their choices, and to gain peace of mind now. Natural follow-up questions include exploring more fully one or more of the turning points the person mentions and asking more details about the importance of that turning point in their lives and how they felt after taking the particular path they took.

 

Other questions include asking whether they would take that particular path again knowing what they now know and how they thought their lives might have turned out differently if they had taken a different route. When exploring this topic, it is important to be sensitive to whether a turning point was emotionally difficult or had outcomes that were not easy. Allow the senior to reveal only as much as they are comfortable revealing without pushing too hard or probing beyond his or her comfort zone.

 

Laughing with Mary Maxwell – Video

Blog Post by Mike Brunt

She’s the lady that became a YouTube sensation as she delivered a hilarious prayer about growing old, making over 8 million people laugh. Now she’s back by popular demand with her own column with video commentary on CaregiverStress.com! Mary will give advice and share her hilarious take on life in her deadpan comedic style, reminding us again and again that laughter is truly the best medicine.